Cycle of Domestic Violence
Violence is a learned behavior that is often passed from one generation to another. Many victims of domestic abuse report growing up in the violent homes or being abused as children. The same is true of men who batter. Exposure to violence in the home affects everyone in their adult lives.

Violence is also cyclical.

•	The first stage of the cycle is the tension building period. This can last a short time or a very long time. Emotional and mental abuse is common during this time.
•	Many victims are able to anticipate the pending violent event, which is the second stage of the cycle; and can take the form of physical abuse, sexual abuse or the destruction of property or pets loved by the victim. Abuse of the children is sometimes a part of this episode.
•	The final stage is called the honeymoon period, and is typically a time of remorse, apology, and promises that it will never happen again…coupled with favors, gifts, romantic and loving behavior.

The woman who loves the batterer wants so much to believe in him! If she does… the cycle begins again.